Story from Katie S. about her second birth, first time Hypnobabies birth:
I had been having irregular pressure waves for probably the last two months of pregnancy. Then finally on Sunday evening (July 17), they started coming every 10 minutes and continued that way for three hours. Then they stopped all of a sudden. On Monday, they picked back up in the same pattern for 11 hours...but never any closer than 10 minutes. I called the hospital because I wondered how long something like that could last and whether it could make me dilate. They told me to go back to bed. The nurse's exact quote was, "Those aren't real. It's from tonight's storm front. Real contractions will rock your world." I didn't feel like explaining why they wouldn't because of hypnosis! I didn't get much sleep that night.
On Tuesday, they continued and I called the doctor's office. They had me come in there rather than waste a trip to L&D if it was nothing. I was 3cm and the doctor thought with a nice long walk, I would go to 4 or 5cm. So I took a three-hour walk and got check in L&D, where I was still 3cm! They sent me home. I was so disappointed. We had loaded the car, had a fun family lunch with our son and fully expected to meet our new baby that night. When I left L&D, my waves were very strong and 5 minutes apart and stayed that way. The nurse (a former midwife) told me to listen to my body - she said that since I was having all the waves, the only way to know for sure when to return was to listen to myself and come back when I felt "different."
The doctor gave me a sleeping pill because she thought my lack of rest was holding my body back. So we went home, I took the pill and got some sleep. At 4:22am on July 20, I woke up with intense pressure waves, but didn't know if they were different enough for a return trip. I let my husband sleep and timed them - still five minutes apart. Brian got up and decided to go to the office to pick up some work to bring home, thinking the baby would be here soon. As he was about to leave, I told him I just felt like I needed him, so he stayed and drew me a bubble bath. Just before I got in, I lost my plug and while in the tub, I needed him to help me with relaxation. The waves were coming 3-5 minutes apart and we decided to call the doctor and ask if that was a big enough change. She said to come back in.
It took about an hour maybe to get there and I needed some help with my relaxation on the car ride. I just wanted out of there! We arrived at the hospital at about 9:30am. They got me upstairs and were taking my vitals when I thought my water broke. The nurse checked and it was actually blood. Then out of nowhere, I threw up. So she grabbed the doctor and they discovered I was 8cm! Everything went so fast from there. I was GBS+ and needed two bags of antibiotics, so there was a flurry of activity trying to get them in. I also volunteered my cord blood to be donated and so I had a nurse in there getting consent and asking health questions. I was trying to be so polite. I held my hand up for each wave to signal silence, had Brian talk me through it with our key words and then popped my head back up to finish her questions. She was amazed, saying most women would have kicked her out!
Around 11am, I told the nurse I thought I had to go to the bathroom. Of course she recognized it as me wanting to push. Again, she grabbed the doctor, who told me to push when I felt like it. I ran the show and it was wonderful. Only once was I told to stop so they could stretch my perineum. With one push, I broke my water. A few minutes later, we had a beautiful 7 pound, 8 ounce baby girl!
The contractions required some concentration and my husband did a wonderful job of helping me, saying all the right things and taking charge. They never felt worse than some menstrual cramps though. The pushing part never caused any pain either - it was just so intense. I felt a little burn, but it was nothing really. It just made me want to push more. I couldn't believe how easy the whole thing felt. It was really an incredible and empowering experience.
Story from Mellisa H. about her first birth:
Mellissa was born on August 13, 2005, at 10:12 am after 39 hours of pressure waves (contractions). Mellissa’s birth was a Hypnobabies birth, that is, I practiced hypnosis for the entirety of her birth as a means to control my reactions to my body’s natural birthing behaviors. I chose to use hypnosis for two reasons, one I wanted the most natural birth I could offer myself and my child, and two because I am highly allergic to most forms of pain medication.
Most of my birthing time (labor) was spent at home relaxing in the bed or in the bath. I was in a deep state of hypnosis, and I experienced no pain through the first and last stages of birth and only menstrual like cramps during transformation (transition). The first consistent birthing waves started on Thursday night at 7:00 pm or so. My midwife at a regularly scheduled appointment checked me Friday morning to see how far along I was. At that time I was 3 cm dilated. We went back home, called Tami, our Doula, and waited for things to progress some more. We waited to go to the hospital until the next morning around 7:20 am when I was about 7-8 cm dilated. By the time we arrived at the hospital at (20 min later) I was 9 cm dilated. The car ride seemed to really hurry things up.
I remember very little of the passage of the time while I was at the hospital before Mellissa was born. It felt like no more than 20-30 min. In reality Mellissa was birthed after 2.5 hours after we arrived. I pushed for only 35 min. My birth partner, my husband, and our friend Tami, who acted as our Doula, supported me during the birth. Both did a wonderful job keeping me focused during the last couple of hours of transformation and during the birth itself. I did scare them a bit during the birth, as I got very vocal. I was not in pain, but it felt “right” and “good” to cry out as I pushed. I had to reassure them several times that I really wasn’t in pain. Mellissa was born quickly with the placenta following within 5 min or so.
There were only two complications in the whole process. One, I tore pretty badly when Mellissa was born. Her head and shoulders came out very quickly (she is a tiny little thing), and, along with the birthing position I was in, it made it difficult for the midwives to support my perineum. I ended up with a third degree tear. Actually, the process of getting that repaired was far more painful and difficult than any other part of the birth. Due to my allergies, they could only use a local to stitch me up. I could use the hypnosis to control the deeper pain, but only when the Doctor and Midwife let me know what they were going to do. When they acted without talking to me, I could not get the anesthesia directed to the correct place. Go figure. The second complication was Mellissa was born with a knot in her umbilicus. Since the knot could have tightened at any point in the gestation or birth, and therefore killed her, it is nothing less than a miracle that she made it into the world alive and whole. Thank God for small miracles.
When Mellissa was born neither she nor I had any medication in our systems, and both of us recovered very quickly from the birth. Mellissa’s APGAR scores were both 9’s. Our Midwives and L&D nurses were very impressed with our birthing. My hubby and I received several comments like, “It was a great pleasure to be in attendance at your birth,” and “It was wonderful to be able to attend a birth and not have to worry about intervention.” We heard similar comments from the other Midwives and nurses when we went in for Mellissa’s first check up.
Both Mellissa and I have recovered from the birth quickly. I was up and moving around in a fairly normal fashion by day four (pretty impressive considering the tear). Mellissa passed all of her examinations with flying colors and regained her birth weight by day 6.
Obviously, we are please as punch with the dear girl, and with our Hypnobabies experience ;-)
Quotes from S.A. about her second birth, first Hypnobabies birth:
"The difference between Alex and Andrew's births are incredible to me. The best part was after giving birth to Alex, I felt great! I was not tired at all. Jaime couldn't believe I wasn't tired. I felt like I want to have another baby again. With Andrew's birth, I felt the exact opposite. I was so exhausted and wasn't sure if I could ever bring myself to do that again. THANKS TO HYPNOBABIES, I didn't have to:) ...this birth experience was more than I hoped for, and I appreciate all the time and effort you spent educating me about birthing and the use of self-hypnosis. Jaime thanks you too. As you know, he was very skeptical going into this, but agrees that it was well worth his time and effort too...Thanks again for all your support and encouragement."
(If you're a student who would like to submit a story or picture to be included here, please send it to susan@tranquilbirthing.com. You all have such great stories to share, and I'd love to let everyone read them!)